Living With Unresolved Trauma

Living with unresolved trauma can result in a relationship that isn’t happy or healthy.

You may think you have “dealt with it,” when what is really happening is that your behavior is being driven by what has happened to you.

Trauma is unique to each and every one of us. None of us experience trauma in the same way, or from the same thing. Trauma can occur from losing a loved one, a disaster, an accident, abuse, experiencing or witnessing violence, divorce, or an illness.

When your emotional health has been compromised, but you have chosen to just “solider on,” the wounds will continue to fester.

Unresolved trauma looks like:

Unexplainable anger or irritability.
Flashbacks of unpleasant memories.
Trouble sleeping, or nightmares and night sweats.
Anxiety or panic attacks.
Consistently being on high alert or feeling in danger.

The unresolved trauma is the filter through which you see the world and all your relationships. It can cause distrust and conflict with your partner.

Instead of solely placing blame on your partner, is it possible that past trauma is impacting your reactions?

Here are some ways you can heal from unresolved trauma:

Exercise: Activities like yoga can help reduce your symptoms.
Meditation: Quieting your mind can reduce stress or anxiety.
Journal: Writing down your thoughts can be helpful, and it allows you to keep track of what’s been going through your mind.
Talk With a Friend: Getting it out in a trusted friend can help instead of bottling up your emotions.
See A Therapist: There are many tools therapists have to help. Including EMDR. Find a therapist you like and start working on your unresolved trauma.

Click here to meet the team from KDM Counseling Group to see if we can help you work through your unresolved trauma – or anything else.

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