Living With Unresolved Trauma
Living With Unresolved Trauma Living with unresolved trauma can result in a relationship that isn’t happy or healthy. You may think you have “dealt with it,” when what is really happening is that your behavior is being driven by what has happened to you. Trauma is unique to each and every one of us. None […]
Are You Embarrassed to Tell Your Therapist Something?
Are You Embarrassed to Tell Your Therapist Something? If you’ve ever been embarrassed to tell your therapist something, let me remind you of something: chances are, I’ve heard it MANY times before. Here are 10 things that people have been afraid to tell me in therapy because they think it’s weird or embarrassing: 1. Anything […]
Gaslighting In My Relationship
Gaslighting In My Relationship Too often, clients come to therapy to find out if they are overreacting to their partner’s behavior. They tell me their partner says things like, “It’s all in your head.” “I never said that.” “It was just a joke.” When your partner uses harmful phrases or twists words against you to […]
Did You Know Passive-Aggressive Behavior Goes Both Ways?
Did You Know Passive-Aggressive Behavior Goes Both Ways? It’s B-S Free Friday. Let’s talk about passive-aggressive behavior. Passive-aggressive behavior is when someone indirectly expressive negative feelings about a situation instead of just saying how they feel. Often, this is because they are fearful. They’re fearful of losing control, they are insecure, or they have low […]
What Does ADHD Have to Do With My Relationship?
What Does ADHD Have to Do With My Relationship? If you just thought in your head, “ADHD has nothing to do with my relationship,” let me walk you through it: Do you have communication problems? Do you feel like a priority to your partner? Do you struggle with time management? Do you know what needs […]
Do your Couples Therapy Homework!
Do your Couples Therapy Homework! I get it. Nobody thinks back to high school and says, “You know I really loved the homework part of that experience.” But guess what? Homework was intended to help solidify what you learned during school hours. It isn’t much different in therapy. Homework allows you to implement strategies you […]
The Importance of Paying Attention to your Relationship Priorities
The Importance of Paying Attention to your Relationship Priorities Think of your relationship as an empty vase. Now, let’s fill that vase with rocks, pebbles, and sand. I put together a demonstration so you can see exactly what this looks like. We’re first going to fill with rocks. The rocks are the foundation of a […]
5 Ways Individual Therapy Can Help Your Relationship
5 Ways Individual Therapy Can Help Your Relationship It is a scary thing when your relationship is in a bad place, but your partner isn’t willing to do something new to try to improve your situation. You may have read some things online or asked friends for advice on how to make changes to better […]
What We Get WRONG When It Comes to Love Languages
What We Get WRONG When It Comes to Love Languages It’s BS-Free Friday. Let’s talk about the 5 love languages. We want to understand our own and our partner’s. They are: Words of Affirmation: When your partner gives compliments, verbal appreciation and encouragement, or hearing “I love you” or other statements often. Quality Time: When […]
The Risks of Staying in a Toxic Relationship for the Kids
The Risks of Staying in a Toxic Relationship for the Kids In my work as a Marriage and Family Therapist, I always inquire at the beginning of working with a couple what their goals are in therapy. Couples usually say things along the lines of improving their communication, increasing their level of intimacy, and repairing […]