Did You Know Passive-Aggressive Behavior Goes Both Ways?
Did You Know Passive-Aggressive Behavior Goes Both Ways? It’s B-S Free Friday. Let’s talk about passive-aggressive behavior. Passive-aggressive behavior is when someone indirectly expressive negative feelings about a situation instead of just saying how they feel. Often, this is because they are fearful. They’re fearful of losing control, they are insecure, or they have low […]
What Does ADHD Have to Do With My Relationship?
What Does ADHD Have to Do With My Relationship? If you just thought in your head, “ADHD has nothing to do with my relationship,” let me walk you through it: Do you have communication problems? Do you feel like a priority to your partner? Do you struggle with time management? Do you know what needs […]
Do your Couples Therapy Homework!
Do your Couples Therapy Homework! I get it. Nobody thinks back to high school and says, “You know I really loved the homework part of that experience.” But guess what? Homework was intended to help solidify what you learned during school hours. It isn’t much different in therapy. Homework allows you to implement strategies you […]
The Importance of Paying Attention to your Relationship Priorities
The Importance of Paying Attention to your Relationship Priorities Think of your relationship as an empty vase. Now, let’s fill that vase with rocks, pebbles, and sand. I put together a demonstration so you can see exactly what this looks like. We’re first going to fill with rocks. The rocks are the foundation of a […]
5 Ways Individual Therapy Can Help Your Relationship
5 Ways Individual Therapy Can Help Your Relationship It is a scary thing when your relationship is in a bad place, but your partner isn’t willing to do something new to try to improve your situation. You may have read some things online or asked friends for advice on how to make changes to better […]
What We Get WRONG When It Comes to Love Languages
What We Get WRONG When It Comes to Love Languages It’s BS-Free Friday. Let’s talk about the 5 love languages. We want to understand our own and our partner’s. They are: Words of Affirmation: When your partner gives compliments, verbal appreciation and encouragement, or hearing “I love you” or other statements often. Quality Time: When […]
The Risks of Staying in a Toxic Relationship for the Kids
The Risks of Staying in a Toxic Relationship for the Kids In my work as a Marriage and Family Therapist, I always inquire at the beginning of working with a couple what their goals are in therapy. Couples usually say things along the lines of improving their communication, increasing their level of intimacy, and repairing […]
Intentionality in Your Relationship
Intentionality in Your Relationship All too often we get carried away with the mile-long list of things we need to do. Having weekly check-ins with your partner can help you reflect on your relationship, share aspects that are working well, and address areas of conflict in a productive way. These regular discussions can help you […]
The Dangers of Financial Abuse
The Dangers of Financial Abuse Financial abuse is one of the most common, yet forgotten, forms of abuse. It is particularly insidious because it leaves you dependent and vulnerable. Without agency over your finances, you are trapped in an abusive relationship and your ability to stay safe after leaving your abusive partner is essentially gone. […]
The Truth Behind Triggers
The Truth Behind Triggers It seems that society likes to pick a psychology word or phrase and then overuse and mishandle it. When people misuse terms, we lose what they actually mean. Sometimes this is in the form of actual diagnoses, like… That’s so OCD. They are acting totally bipolar. Don’t be so paranoid. Sometimes […]