Trauma’s Impact on the Brain
Trauma’s Impact on the Brain There is a big push in the mental health community to research and understand the impact of trauma on mental and physical health. Thanks to books like The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk, What Happened to You? by Bruce Perry, and What My Bones […]
The Dangers of Financial Abuse
The Dangers of Financial Abuse Financial abuse is one of the most common, yet forgotten, forms of abuse. It is particularly insidious because it leaves you dependent and vulnerable. Without agency over your finances, you are trapped in an abusive relationship and your ability to stay safe after leaving your abusive partner is essentially gone. […]
The Truth Behind Triggers
The Truth Behind Triggers It seems that society likes to pick a psychology word or phrase and then overuse and mishandle it. When people misuse terms, we lose what they actually mean. Sometimes this is in the form of actual diagnoses, like… That’s so OCD. They are acting totally bipolar. Don’t be so paranoid. Sometimes […]
Attachment Theory in Relationships
Attachment Theory in Relationships Have you ever jumped from relationship to relationship every few months, wondering why you can’t find the perfect partner? Or maybe you’ve been left wondering why the partners you choose are always emotionally unavailable. What if you knew that your relationship choices and the way you attach to others has been […]
Emotional Affairs, The Slippery Slope
Sometimes in life things aren’t as easy to identify and the proverbial crossing of the line is wavy at best. The slippery slope in the relationship counseling world is if someone is having an affair when there is no physical contact. Research shows that most adults think that just talking could sometimes be a form […]
Please Don’t Excuse the Tears
During two different therapy sessions this week, I cried.Not big, sobbing cries. But noticeable tears, nonetheless. Of course, I had a million things racing through my mind as my eyes started to go glassy. I was experiencing countertransference and something that I don’t think is explained enough to people outside the walls of clinical supervision. […]
The Hidden Horrors of Psychological Abuse
One of the most subtle forms of abuse in a relationship is emotional abuse. Physical abuse is something that can be easily recognized (although, not always); however, emotional abuse is often an unseen terror. The signs can be hard for people on the outside to recognize AND oftentimes for the victim themselves to see […]
How to Choose YOUR Word of the Year
In my last blog, I mentioned my annual tradition of carefully choosing a word each year as a sort of mantra to help shape my goals and values. Mine for 2023 is bittersweet. It is so eloquently said by Susan Cain, who authored the book by the same name, “Bittersweetness is a tendency to states […]
EMDR – an Answer to Trauma
You can’t think or talk your way out of trauma. Trauma is not cognitive. The mind and body are connected, and you need both to heal. The nervous system is affected by your experiences, so you need to include your nervous system in the healing process experience. EMDR therapy is designed to incorporate the mind […]
How to Handle Being Homesick at College
Leaving for college is typically a time of excitement for students, one that represents new opportunities and, for many, their first venture out on their own, living away from family. But with that newfound freedom may come feelings of homesickness. “With little exception, all students will feel homesick at some time, usually in the beginning,” says Tamar […]