Admitting there is a problem in your relationship is the first step and often times an easy one. Knowing how to navigate and work on the problem is another story all together. Relationships go through ups and downs and adding children to the equation only makes juggling the relationship more difficult. The stress of our jobs, financial issues, children, and the pressures of life can overwhelm us to the point where we are not taking care of ourselves and especially not our relationships. Talking about the problems may work, but what if talking to one another is not enough? What do we do from there? If we ignore the problems will they go away or dissipate over time? The answer is no and therapy can definitely help you navigate through the rollercoaster ride of your relationship. The question still remains, why sex therapy?
Sex therapists are trained in the same way as any other therapists; however, we have advanced training in relationship issues, sexual dysfunctions, sexual addictions, intimacy issues, and the physiological aspects of sexuality. Sex therapists understand that every relationship has a different set of issues and that there is no one way to treat a couple. Sex therapists tailor the treatment to the unique couple and works with their specific needs. Most importantly, sex therapists are open and comfortable talking about sex and helps couples become more comfortable talking about their wants and needs.
One important thing to remember is you are not alone. Every couple experiences some type of sexual issue in their relationship. Common struggles include a lack of understanding on what the other one wants and needs, desired frequency does not match for both individuals, or physiological changes that come with growing older and menopause. You are not the only one lacking crazy passionate sex all of the time. Sex takes work from both individuals and creating open communication can lead to greatly increasing your sexual satisfaction.
So what does sex therapy look like?