Men, It’s Time: Why You Deserve a Safe Space to Work on Your Mental Health

Men, It’s Time: Why You Deserve a Safe Space to Work on Your Mental Health Hey there— If you’re reading this, there’s a good chance something inside you knows it’s time for a change. Maybe you’re tired of feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or constantly misunderstood. Maybe you’re struggling in your relationships, your work, or just in […]

The Power of Seeing the Best in Your Partner

The Power of Seeing the Best in Your Partner—Even on the Hard Days Relationships are built in the everyday moments—the quiet dinners, shared laughter, miscommunications, and even the hard conversations. But one of the most overlooked ways to strengthen a relationship is choosing to see the best in your partner, especially when things feel frustrating, […]

Understanding Betrayal Trauma: Why It Hurts So Deeply and How to Begin Healing

Understanding Betrayal Trauma: Why It Hurts So Deeply and How to Begin Healing As a therapist who works closely with individuals and couples navigating trauma, I can tell you—few wounds cut as deep as betrayal trauma. Whether it’s discovering infidelity in a relationship, uncovering years of deception, or recognizing that someone you trusted has violated […]

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Insights from Research and Therapy

How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Insights from Research and Therapy Building and maintaining a strong relationship takes effort, intention, and continuous growth. Whether you’re in a long-term partnership or just starting out, understanding how to nurture your connection is essential. At KDM Counseling Group, we help couples navigate challenges, improve communication, and develop deeper emotional […]

Understanding Internal Family Systems (IFS): A Path to Self-Healing

Understanding Internal Family Systems (IFS): A Path to Self-Healing Internal Family Systems (IFS) is a powerful and transformative approach to therapy that helps individuals understand and heal the different parts of themselves. Developed by Dr. Richard Schwartz in the 1980s, IFS is based on the idea that the mind is made up of multiple sub-personalities, […]

Trauma’s Impact on the Brain

  Trauma’s Impact on the Brain             There is a big push in the mental health community to research and understand the impact of trauma on mental and physical health. Thanks to books like The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk, What Happened to You? by Bruce Perry, and What My Bones […]

Please Don’t Excuse the Tears

During two different therapy sessions this week, I cried.Not big, sobbing cries. But noticeable tears, nonetheless. Of course, I had a million things racing through my mind as my eyes started to go glassy. I was experiencing countertransference and something that I don’t think is explained enough to people outside the walls of clinical supervision. […]

The Hidden Horrors of Psychological Abuse

  One of the most subtle forms of abuse in a relationship is emotional abuse. Physical abuse is something that can be easily recognized (although, not always); however, emotional abuse is often an unseen terror. The signs can be hard for people on the outside to recognize AND oftentimes for the victim themselves to see […]

How to Choose YOUR Word of the Year

In my last blog, I mentioned my annual tradition of carefully choosing a word each year as a sort of mantra to help shape my goals and values. Mine for 2023 is bittersweet. It is so eloquently said by Susan Cain, who authored the book by the same name, “Bittersweetness is a tendency to states […]

Word of the Year

It is that time of year where it behooves us to take inventory of the year that is coming to a close and, at the same time, begin making plans on how we want to embrace the next chapter (albeit, a calendar-based transition). I love the feeling I get during the second half of December […]