Understanding Betrayal Trauma: Why It Hurts So Deeply and How to Begin Healing
Understanding Betrayal Trauma: Why It Hurts So Deeply and How to Begin Healing As a therapist who works closely with individuals and couples navigating trauma, I can tell you—few wounds cut as deep as betrayal trauma. Whether it’s discovering infidelity in a relationship, uncovering years of deception, or recognizing that someone you trusted has violated […]
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Insights from Research and Therapy
How to Strengthen Your Relationship: Insights from Research and Therapy Building and maintaining a strong relationship takes effort, intention, and continuous growth. Whether you’re in a long-term partnership or just starting out, understanding how to nurture your connection is essential. At KDM Counseling Group, we help couples navigate challenges, improve communication, and develop deeper emotional […]
Understanding Internal Family Systems (IFS): A Path to Self-Healing
Understanding Internal Family Systems (IFS): A Path to Self-Healing Internal Family Systems (IFS) is a powerful and transformative approach to therapy that helps individuals understand and heal the different parts of themselves. Developed by Dr. Richard Schwartz in the 1980s, IFS is based on the idea that the mind is made up of multiple sub-personalities, […]
EMDR – an Answer to Trauma
You can’t think or talk your way out of trauma. Trauma is not cognitive. The mind and body are connected, and you need both to heal. The nervous system is affected by your experiences, so you need to include your nervous system in the healing process experience. EMDR therapy is designed to incorporate the mind […]
How to Handle Being Homesick at College
Leaving for college is typically a time of excitement for students, one that represents new opportunities and, for many, their first venture out on their own, living away from family. But with that newfound freedom may come feelings of homesickness. “With little exception, all students will feel homesick at some time, usually in the beginning,” says Tamar […]
Blended Christmas
This year we will have fourteen people at our Christmas dinner table. This includes my mom and her husband, as well as our six kids plus four of their significant others. I can only imagine the additional pandemonium at our home once grandkids are part of the picture. It is fun to have a buzzing […]
Five Tips for Working Through Difficult Emotions
Almost everyone knows the expression, “Don’t worry. Be happy.” The idea might be catchy, but it is certainly not good advice. And yet, someone in your past had probably told you not to worry at a time when you were at your lowest – when you didn’t feel happy. Chances are, that expression made you […]
Connection is Key
This week on our new podcast, Spilling the Thera-Tea, Jess and I interviewed our very own couples’ counseling expert at KDM Counseling Group, AnnLee Allen. We were excited to get into the nitty-gritty of an area of therapy about which we all feel passionate. It is overwhelmingly clear that more couples need help navigating difficult […]
What Twelve Step Programs Can Teach You About Dealing with Chaos
Twelve-step programs have helped millions of adults who felt like their life was spinning out of control. Even if you’re not addicted to alcohol or gambling, their philosophy may help you when external events make your situation seem unmanageable. Maybe your life has been disrupted by health issues or job loss. Maybe your relationships are […]
9 Things Emotionally Healthy People Do
9 Things Emotionally Healthy People Do You know a few emotionally healthy people. Their relationships seem to go smoothly. They get their work done on time. Happiness appears to be their most common emotional state. They don’t have financial challenges. They maintain healthy body weight. They don’t seem to be any more talented or intelligent […]