5 Ways Individual Therapy Can Help Your Relationship
5 Ways Individual Therapy Can Help Your Relationship It is a scary thing when your relationship is in a bad place, but your partner isn’t willing to do something new to try to improve your situation. You may have read some things online or asked friends for advice on how to make changes to better […]
What We Get WRONG When It Comes to Love Languages
What We Get WRONG When It Comes to Love Languages It’s BS-Free Friday. Let’s talk about the 5 love languages. We want to understand our own and our partner’s. They are: Words of Affirmation: When your partner gives compliments, verbal appreciation and encouragement, or hearing “I love you” or other statements often. Quality Time: When […]
The Risks of Staying in a Toxic Relationship for the Kids
The Risks of Staying in a Toxic Relationship for the Kids In my work as a Marriage and Family Therapist, I always inquire at the beginning of working with a couple what their goals are in therapy. Couples usually say things along the lines of improving their communication, increasing their level of intimacy, and repairing […]
The Dangers of Financial Abuse
The Dangers of Financial Abuse Financial abuse is one of the most common, yet forgotten, forms of abuse. It is particularly insidious because it leaves you dependent and vulnerable. Without agency over your finances, you are trapped in an abusive relationship and your ability to stay safe after leaving your abusive partner is essentially gone. […]
EMDR – an Answer to Trauma
You can’t think or talk your way out of trauma. Trauma is not cognitive. The mind and body are connected, and you need both to heal. The nervous system is affected by your experiences, so you need to include your nervous system in the healing process experience. EMDR therapy is designed to incorporate the mind […]
How to Handle Being Homesick at College
Leaving for college is typically a time of excitement for students, one that represents new opportunities and, for many, their first venture out on their own, living away from family. But with that newfound freedom may come feelings of homesickness. “With little exception, all students will feel homesick at some time, usually in the beginning,” says Tamar […]
Five Tips for Working Through Difficult Emotions
Almost everyone knows the expression, “Don’t worry. Be happy.” The idea might be catchy, but it is certainly not good advice. And yet, someone in your past had probably told you not to worry at a time when you were at your lowest – when you didn’t feel happy. Chances are, that expression made you […]
Connection is Key
This week on our new podcast, Spilling the Thera-Tea, Jess and I interviewed our very own couples’ counseling expert at KDM Counseling Group, AnnLee Allen. We were excited to get into the nitty-gritty of an area of therapy about which we all feel passionate. It is overwhelmingly clear that more couples need help navigating difficult […]
What Twelve Step Programs Can Teach You About Dealing with Chaos
Twelve-step programs have helped millions of adults who felt like their life was spinning out of control. Even if you’re not addicted to alcohol or gambling, their philosophy may help you when external events make your situation seem unmanageable. Maybe your life has been disrupted by health issues or job loss. Maybe your relationships are […]
9 Things Emotionally Healthy People Do
9 Things Emotionally Healthy People Do You know a few emotionally healthy people. Their relationships seem to go smoothly. They get their work done on time. Happiness appears to be their most common emotional state. They don’t have financial challenges. They maintain healthy body weight. They don’t seem to be any more talented or intelligent […]